Sometimes life is just so frustrating!

Well, its perhaps a bit broad to say life is so frustrating. I think we’re talking about something a little more specific. We’re talking about work.

We’ve all been there. Completing that ginormous project and no one notices. The manager who comes up with all the big ideas……..that you gave them. The work mate who is CONSTANTLY texting whilst you finish off that report they were supposed to do.

My husband and I have just had a long chat about our respective current work related frustrations. There was wine involved. And unsurprisingly we both now feel a little better…….due in part to the wine, I’m not going to deny it. However, regardless of where you work, study or in fact stay at home (I’m talking about you patience-of-a-saint stay at home mums) we all have our moments when it all gets a bit too much. So what you can you do to save a tiny bit of your sanity and avoid any arrestable offences? Well, here’s a few thoughts;

1) Talk to a friend

This is where the wine may come in. Simply talking to someone can often help you find your own solutions and your friend may come up with some ideas that you may not have thought of. After all, they know you pretty well.

2) Write the good stuff down

Making a note of the good moments (or journaling as our transatlantic friends call it) really can help to focus your mind and take you out of the spiral of doom you’re sending yourself down.

3) Check your reality

Obviously I am always right. Always. Ok, so sometimes my reality is not the actual reality. It’s not the same reality that other people are experiencing even when they share the same moment with you. Your experience will always be yours and theirs will always be theirs. And sometimes, just sometimes, frustrations are our own making. Sometimes we need to take some responsibility for ourselves rather than blaming others. This is where the wine comes back into it’s own, makes most things more palletable.

4) Pound the pavement

Or a punchbag. Or a spinning bike. Or some weights in the gym. Its well know that exercise releases the feel good stuff and overcomes that tightly wrung tension. Even if its just a walk in the fresh air, a change of environment can aid the creation of a new perspective.

And finally, sometimes you just need to let it go. Will pent up frustration and internal blood curdling anger change the situation? Nope. It will only serve to increase your blood pressure as you descend into your very own vortex of doom.

Let it go, grab a glass of wine and have a good old chat with your nearest and dearest. Now, I’m off to top up my glass.

Hello Stranger!

After something of a ‘hiatus’, I’m back! A period of child illness (yes, again!), crazy busy work plus a bit of fun mixed in has made it a very busy time indeed. And you know, when you sometimes you are that busy you end up a little frazzled well, I’ve been well and truly knackered to be frank!

The nippers tonsillitis made a return but this time as a respiratory virus, which then turned into suspected pneumonia and a delightful trip to our local GP out of hours service on a Sunday evening. Which, following projectile vomiting by a small person (I had no idea they could regurgitate that volume of rancid liquid) became a long wait in A&E to see the Paediatric Registrar. By the time said medical professional arrived (who was absolutely lovely by the way) the little chap was seemingly fully recovered and as bright as a button. Typical. The upshot is that he’s probably going to need to have his tonsils out, probably sooner rather than later. Not a process I’m relishing but I’ve got to say that kid has suffered so much with being unwell over the last few months that if it alleviates that it must be worth it right?

This latest period of illness coincided with the busiest month ever for our family business. Again, typical. This, combined with contract negotiations progressing well (hurrah!)with a big organisation we are looking to provide services too has meant that ‘flexible working’ has had a whole new meaning. Yawn.┬áBut don’t worry, now that the nipper is well and due to the Easter bank holidays putting a spanner in the works, work has now swung the other way. Deadly quiet. I’ll say it again. Typical.

But in amongst all this daily time management challenge that pretty much every working parent faces, we’ve squeezed in some brilliant fun stuff too. We went to a fantastic restaurant called Reform in my home town of Lincoln for my birthday celebrations with friends. Its a fantastic venue, great service and amazing food and with the prosecco flowing safe in the knowledge that Nipper was staying overnight at Grans, we had a lovely evening. We also had a family day out to the coast where my little boy absolutely loved the beach – even though it was typical English weather of bracing wind and small rain! As a result we’re looking to book a holiday abroad in September so he can really feel the sand in his feet. Well, I wouldn’t want him to miss out!

I’ve also actually managed to do a little clothes shopping for myself – its a miracle! Any Mummy knows that shopping with a toddler in tow is neither the most productive or relaxing experience one can have! And whilst I’m generally happy to have a little browse online, nothing is better then pounding the pavements and having a little try on of various outfits without stopping the little one from looking through the curtains of other changing rooms/getting his sticky fingers on beautiful blouses/running away!

So all is well and hopefully I’ll be here to record my adventures a little more regularly. I’m still finding my blog voice and my identity on here┬ábut if you’re willing to endure my ramblings as I work that out then hopefully see you again soon x